something I wrote 18 months before I met my future husband

Part of the fun of packing up includes finding long lost boxes. We found a few jewels yesterday and I was surprised with this one. What do you think? How close did I get?


Love and marriage
March 4,1981
Connie Haws

The man I marry will need to fulfill a lot of hopes I have for him. I, first expect him to be the same religion as me and have the same standards. He will need to have a lot of self confidence, but not any self conceit. He will have to have the ability to get along well with others, even if he really doesn't like them. He will need to be crazy in love with me and think a lot of me. I hope he has the power to be the leader of our home and the leader of me, but not so much hat he stunts my self esteem to be my own growing worthwhile thinking person. He must have the attitude that we will be together forever and that whatever comes along we together as a team to handle it. He must love families and children. I'd like him to have a good reputation as a strong leader, a great friend, and a totally honest trustworthy person. More important than the reputation, he has to really truly be those things. He must be attractive to me and must find me attractive also. I hope he is the romantic sentimental type who will always treat me as a lady. And hold me as a woman on a pedestal. He's got to make me feel protected and also help me feel like I want to be my best at everything I do. He must be fun loving and happy. He must be gentle, and very loving, and very very sensitive to my feelings. He must have the knowledge to help educate our children. He must have a strong ambition to make life work for us, and have a good stable job so we don't have any trouble with money. We don't have to be rich, but we should have enough so we can have a good life. He needs to be well balanced in his interests so we can try new things. He should like outdoors and participating and watching sports, but not over me. We should be each others main concern and feel as though we would do anything for each other. We have to be best friends.

My kids thought is was pretty close to what I got. Dave read it and said, "thats what I try to be everyday" riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight, hes already there my friends. The kids think the gem of the day was Davids yearbooks and pictures in them. I'm wondering if its right to post those pictures here....He had great hair- lets just leave it at that

A sad day- Midnight, Big Kitty, Stinky, The Professor--

Today Joseph and I ran off to get his wisdom teeth stitches out first thing this morning. While we were out, I asked if he had seen any of the three kitties this morning- neither of us had. It's a little out of the ordinary but not unheard of. When we got home we started getting ready to meet the aunts and cousins at the park. Joseph called to me while I was putting DI stuff in the van. He said he had found Big Kitty and that he had died behind one of his favorite plants, in the front flower bed. Joseph was very sad. Jacob came out and saw what has happened, I went in to get a towel and a box to put him in We called The Dad and he helped Joseph a little bit. Jacob lifted Stinky out and put him in the box. I couldn't look at him too long, cause it was so sad. I hope he left peacefully. He was a good little pal for all of us for the 16 years we've lived here. I knew Stink wasn't healthy and wondered if he was in pain. He was blind in one eye, and he had that limp from a broken leg-- and he must have had teeth issues cause his breath was really bad. He had gotten really skinny recently. I knew the move would be a little hard on him, so at least he escaped that--- the boys talked of taking him to the canyon to bury him, but they opted to bury him in the back yard. I hope the new owners are cool about that. I remember seeing a cartoon of the family circus where there was a map of the home and yard and lots of pet burial spots were pointed out. It's the sign of a happy pet loving home. I reassured my kids it was ok to be sad about Stink leaving cause it shows their soft hearts. My Dad told me long ago that God gives us pets to help prepare us for when loved ones, who are people, die. A tough lesson that hit home on this sad day.

Connie

My good boys

More changes

We are getting new cabinets next week. Tomorrow the workers will come to take out the cabinets that came with the house. They have been great. It's true that there's not alot of cabinet space but with the pantry and the shelves out in the garage we have managed just fine. I'm fighting the sentimental thoughts that naturally come to me as we've packed this room up. Lots of good times and memories centered on cooking or baking or enjoying a meal- or even just graham crackers and milk at the counter. Its kind of a little work space, not really good for more than one or two cooks, but this scene will always bring me happy memories. I'll post a few more pictures as the progress unfolds.

What I've been up to

This is going to be an interesting summer. We are gearing up for the move. There is no place in the Highland home for my 2 king and queen chairs, so I sold them for $20 less than I bought them for. I'm trying to be organized and weed stuff out as we pack. I had no idea I had so many bottles of lotion!! Weird! And all the shampoo and lotion from hotels .... Where in tar-nation did we ge so many? I'm not a really up tight house cleaner, but I think I do ok. I started working on the bath a few weeks ago and it looks great, but the toilet is giving me fits. There's a bunch of black rust minerals or something way up high under the rim. It's stuff I never really noticed till I got down low to scrub that dirty dog. That black stuff gets me thinking really hard in the middle of the night when I can't sleep. Thankfully it only looks bad and doesn't have any smell- maybe if it did I would have gotten to it sooner. Then there's the food storage issues. Yikes! Alot of the food had already expired but I took it to the food drop off after the shelter lady said any food could be 1-3 yrs expired depending on the food. I have another box of food knocking on the soon to expire door that I will share with my sisters tomorrow. All this makes me thankful for my kids. They are helping me out alot. Next week both boys will be home so I'm sure we will get alot done. ;) Looks like we will be in the new place by the fourth of July. Dave will be out of town 3 times, maybe 4, between now and then. Here's a few pictures to give you a visual on my goings on.

Pricing a new stove

The one in this house has a crack in the ceramic top

Picking out a new counter for the master bath

Cleaning the lousy lou

Sharing soon to expire food

Many items to DI

Weeding out and packing

It's who ya know

Tonight David and I were in Orem signing silly papers for the upcoming
move and the kids called and asked what was planned for dinner. Well,
I'd been involved with activity day today, and then the quick trip to
Orem so I hadn't taken care of dinner for tonight. They said they
would figure something out, so David took me to a near by thai
restaurant. Laura and Steve have gone there often so I was happy to go
there. I wondered what laur and steve really liked there, so I texted
her for the information. She didn't answer right away. When the
server came I asked her if she knew Jack. She started to tell me that
she really didn't know her customers by name, so I said that Jack is a
baby. She said "Jack? Oh!! Jack! Ya! His picture is on our fridge". We
talked about how awesome he is and later the manager came out to talk
to us. She watched Laura and Steve go from newlyweds to expectant
parents to a family of three. They all love S. L. and Jack at that
place. They totally knew what Laura and Steve order, so we got the
same. We really really liked the massaman curry.